What do you think is the most important thing to do before you confront a cheating partner?
Many people think all you need is to know your partner has been unfaithful then badger them into confessing but this is just one step that would most certainly not give you the result you’re aiming for.
Read on to find out the best approach for confronting a cheating partner.
Reasons why people want to confront a cheating partner.
People do things for different personal reasons but here 2 main reasons that came up in the research.
1. They do it for closure. People want to be able to move on with their lives without being weighed down by different thoughts; why did he do it, did he really love me, did I do something wrong in our relationship. They just want to be free from that heartbreak.
2. They want to get past that rough patch and rebuild their relationship. There’s no moving forward in a relationship where one party has cheated until the broken trust is addressed properly.
Steps to take before confronting a cheating partner.
Your gut feeling and the signs are telling you your partner is cheating or you’ve probably heard it from someone, your first thought would be from an emotional place, you want to shout at them and take actions but this is a time to sit back and think. Assess the situation. What exactly do you know, do you have any evidence, when you confront them; what information do you want to get, what outcome do you want from the confrontation. It might be a little difficult but it’s a very important step.
2. Proof/ Evidence
Without the evidence of your partners infidelity, you’re relying on your partners sense of honesty and openness ( which is ironic because if they were honest and open, you won’t be needing this confrontation; they won’t be cheating on you). Hire a private investigator and have them gather a folder of evidence for you before you confront a cheating partner. Without evidence, you would look like a distrusting person trying to create ‘unnecessary drama’ which would make your cheating partner cover their tracks more.
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Plan an appropriate time and place for the confrontation. Make sure there’re no distractions and you’ll be safe during and after the confrontation. It’s also good to have a trusted friend or family who can support you at this time ( not necessarily in the same place where the confrontation would take place but close enough if you need a quick exit).
Planning helps you take control of the confrontation so you won’t be sidetracked.
This can be very emotional but if you’ve followed the steps above, the confrontation should go how you want it. You have your goal, evidence and outcome already planned out and this step is just to help you achieve the aim for the confrontation.
It’s important to stick to your plan throughout the confrontation. Remain calm and be strong.
If you come across new information during your confrontation, it’s okay to go back and think about it before making up your mind on the outcome.
Always remember that a cheater cheated because he’s a cheat and not because of you.
You decide your desired outcome.
– Think about the situation
– Decide your desired outcome
– Get irrefutable Evidence
– Plan your confrontation
– Be calm and strong
– Get help if you need it
– Jump into action immediately without concrete evidence
– Confront without a plan
Also, It’s okay to not want to confront your partner if you’re sure there’re being unfaithful but ensure you get the evidence so you don’t end your relationship based on unproven allegations .